Now I See [spiritually] Meets Chaos [worldly] (M9)

I think the biggest misunderstanding people have about me as a single man is that I am either a player or I am gay. Actually, I am neither.

So, now you must be wondering what he does with his time. Right?

Man 9 (M9) is 36 years old. He has assumed guardianship of two boys whose parents were unable to care for them. He works full time (like most of us), is active in volunteer ministry at his church, enjoys running and spending time with his two boys.

I am an animal lover and have three dogs. My favorite music venues include my shower and my car. I think all honest people rank those among their top 3!  I enjoy reading books on my iPad while relaxing on the deck. I also love "dude movies". I connect with the boys over comics, super heroes, and action and adventure.

?... (M8)

I love big brains. Seriously. One of my favorite things is stumbling into a conversation someone who
is crazy smart, or well read, or super interesting.

This interview was a perfect example of a conversation with an intelligent, curious person who enjoys life.

Man 8 (M8) is 39 years old working in medical device sales and marketing. He travels frequently for work and for fun.

When my friend suggested I be interviewed for your blog I said yes with no hesitation. He asked and I said yes. Man 8 told me that from his view point the thing people most misunderstand about being a single man is that  he don't have as much free time as people assume. (Like all single people he either has to handle everything or find someone else to do it and pay them. His statement gave me flashbacks to my Dad saying that he had kids to do laundry, dishes, vacuum and mow the lawn.)

Growth (W10)

My Dad is a giver to a fault. He is six years younger then my mom. He retired the year before she was diagnosed with alzheimers. He has given up his dream retirement and travel to take care of her.

W10 credits her father for teaching her about kindness. Based on our interview he is selflessly
dedicated to caring for his wife. W10 tries to spend weekends with her parents when she can. It was heartbreaking to hear about her moms condition and how advanced it is at such a young age. It was equally heartwarming to hear that she and her father have stepped up to the plate during what must be an incredible trial.

At 33 years old W10 says she feels most powerful when she knows what she is doing. Examples of when and where she feels powerful are when she is in the kitchen and when she is watching baseball. She is a devout St Louis Cardinals fan for sure!

When I asked about what made her decide to be interviewed she told me that she likes meeting new people. She was recommended by a mutual friend and said she enjoyed reading the stories.

She told me, "I think singles should speak up." (Now that is a thought I agree with)

New Beginning (M5)

I know I'm a good father. I don't know anything else for sure right now.

Man 5 (M5) was divorced last fall. Talking about it with him was refreshing. That may sound strange but it was. His take on being single at 39 years old was pretty light hearted. He is enjoying dating. He is enjoying some freedom, along with the calm and quiet it has brought with it.


My job is working for me right now. I am also learning guitar. I have wanted to learn since I was 10 but thought it was too late to start. I also enjoy music. I like seeing bands at BB's Lawnside, Knuckleheads, and The Phoenix.

He told me that he decided to meet with me because he is an open book. He said he has nothing to hide and since he knew me through mutual friends he decided to take the chance.

I asked him what he thinks people misunderstand about what it's like being a single guy. He told me that he thinks it's partnership. Men want a partner for the same reasons women do. It's not just about sharing responsibilities. He wants someone to be glad to see him at the end of the day.

(Don't Laugh!) At one point he said, "Men are like dogs." Of course, I quickly agreed. I have to say that when he expounded on this cliché it was actually fairly enlightening.